There are so many things that you don’t think about when you are going to get married. Even things as simple as where your medicine will go, in the bathroom or the kitchen? In class there were some questions that we answered about when we get married. These questions are very legit and things that you should think about but they never really came to my mind as important. I think that even the little things are good to talk about when you are getting married. Marriage consists of a lot of adjustments. Also, this week I learned the difference between dating, courtships, engagement, and marriage. Dating is when you go out with lots of people seeing what qualities and attributes you like until you find someone where they have them all. This leads into courtship where you exclusively date. This is where you prepare to want to marry them. Courtship is a trial to see if you are a good fit together. Next if you decided leads to engagement. Engagement is serious and taking your relationship so far to know this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Lastly, marriage. Committed for the rest of your life. J Something to realize with these stages is the fact that you should not slide but take steps. You can’t just slowly go from dating to courting, or courting to engaged. These things are definitely different and take a step to get to. One thing I would like to touch on is marital satisfaction. The most common years for divorce are between years 2-5. I hope that families can prevail through this time and be happy. By our choices we can change the statistics and keep going strong. 

I really loved talking about dating. The reading this week I found super interesting. The article we read related dating to a Cinderella story and found it easy to follow. A quote I loved in there that struck me was, “There are very few perfect people in the world, and if you do get lucky and find one, he or she probably won't want to marry you anyway.” I found this refreshing and blunt. I liked it. No one is going to be perfect. In class we talked a little bit about R.A.M. or relationship attachment model. Basically, there are 5 areas to a relationship in determining what is balanced and unbalanced. The order is: KNOW. TRUST. RELY. COMMIT. TOUCH.  I ordered these from biggest to smallest in the level of importance. So otherwise you should know someone more than you trust them, trust them more than you rely on them, rely on them more than you commit to hem, and commit to them more than you touch them. I think this is so great in determining a balanced relationship. When it is all out of whack you know that there is some unbalance. I am going to look at this scale more often now when it comes to relationships. Also, an interesting fact I learned was that oxytocin is an attachment chemical girls release and boys don’t. That is why we girls feel so attached when we hold hands with someone or something like that. I also liked talking about cohabitation. Something that really stuck with me was when Bro. Williams drew the diagram to cohabitation vs. marriage. In cohabitation your life starts out separate but with one another and stays separate. When you get married you decide to join first, get married, and then start a joined life together. So cohabitation starts as two lines and ends with two lines while marriage starts with two but joins to one when you get married and stays as one line. I think it is really interesting to learn about cohabitation because my sister is cohabitating and I really want what is best for her. I will pass this information along so that everyone can be more educated and make smarter choices. 

I really liked the discussions we had this week. On Monday we talked about the differences between girls and boys and their rights. Some people would say that we should raise boys and girls exactly the same but I disagree. I think boys were meant to be raised on way and girls another.  We watched a video in which girls were firefighters but could not do half of the stuff. It is just proven that girls have half the upper body strength then men. They should be treated different in that aspect. In a way by expecting girls to be the same as boys is taking something away from the boys. There are differences for a reason and we should portray our differences to the best of our ability. When we were talking about Gender roles I kind of got a little flustered during the discussion. Some people were saying girls should do this and boys should do this. I do think that are separate roles that men and women should take on but that is not always the case. There are exceptions. I tend to always try to find the exception when someone tries to say something definite. It’s sometimes a bad habit because there are really exceptions when it comes to anything I believe especially in gender roles. Overall though, there are things that boys do that are supposed to be different from girls. There are scientific facts that prove there are differences and we should raise children taking gender roles into consideration.  Even though there are exceptions there are innate roles that women and men take on that do apply to being a specific gender. I love the gospel and the Proclamation does state some roles of men and women. I also liked how we talked about same sex attraction. I never really understood it until class. I now understand that people are not just born gay. I always thought to myself that it is a possibility but really there is none. It was sad to hear that people who are called gay start to wonder because people accuse them of it. I never thought the words of someone could affect a person so much. That’s sad to think that people who aren't gay claim they’re because they feel out of place. It doesn't matter what gender they are though because they are people and we should love them but not support it. These people are not a third gender even though it is made out to be that way.

I really liked this week’s classes and learning about the income and family dynamics because of a family’s income. I think that through our discussions I figured out that middle income people have it the best. I feel like they are less talked about in this matter. I feel the more rich the more you do not have family time. Instead of buying your love from your family you should spent time with them. But this isn’t just the rich that has this problem but also the poor. The poor can work and work and not have enough family time but always just worrying about money. I really liked the videos that we had to watch for class because it showed a lot of family dynamics for each social class. I especially liked Tammy’s story. I just think it is so sad because she tries so hard to provide for her family but they don’t appreciate it. It would be very nice of her though to just be with her family and just love instead of putting in so much work and really getting nothing out of it. I think there is a good balance between work and family and you have to find it. The one thing I know for sure though is never replace your family with work or money.